Hey man,
Sorry to hear about your situation. There is a family and friends forum here that you might find helpful. When I went into AA the first time last December my girl and I split up... we are both alcoholics and I wanted to do something about it. She wanted to stay in denial. It hurt a lot man even though the situations are different I think I can understand how you feel... its like she is choosing the drink over you. Well the fact of the matter is your girl is sick. She has a progressive fatal illness... until she is ready to admit that there really isn't anything you can do. It sounds corny but you gotta take care of yourself bother. What will happen will happen--good luck and all the best!
Clayton