LaTeeDa's post makes me think about my recent change in attitudes and beliefs about "forgiving."
Forgiving to me, now, means simply, letting go and really understanding that what someone else does has nothing to do with me. This releases me from my sadness from whatever the person did that hurt me.
Forgiving to me, now, means NOT that I forgive, but that I Let Go and Let God. I have released MYSELF from the responsibility of forgiveness of others, and give that to God (My Higher Power). It is God who determines what is RIGHT and what is WRONG and it is not up to me to define those things. When someone begs forgiveness from me, I can now tell them, it is not my place to forgive you, your behavior and your forgiveness are between YOU and YOUR HIGHER POWER.
Thinking this way IS SUCH A RELEASE from the HELL I have put myself through all my life.
Thanks everybody for sharing and for listening.