LaTeeDa

FWIW, TC, the same is true of forgiveness. It has nothing to do with him and everything to do with you. Forgiving someone does not absolve them of wrongdoing. It doesn't condone or approve of anything. It releases you from your self-induced punishment. It really is just a form of acceptance. Of saying to yourself--what happened is done, nothing can change it.

Also, I don't believe in "forgive and forget." That would be like going to school and purposely forgetting what I learned. No way! Life's misery and suffering has a purpose. That purpose is to teach us something. If we forget, we have to take the lesson again.

So, you take the lesson and you move forward. And, at some point, you become grateful for the lesson because you know you won't have to learn it again.

L