"but its scary seen so many relapses while in the program. if one has a sponsor and working the steps, why would there be a relapse?"
Just a suggestion. Focusing on relapses and asking why in and of itself has the potential to cause relapse. As to working AA; make sure you're sponsor has some good sobriety, a least five years. And try focusing on why people DON'T relapse. As Smacked mentioned, some people just are not ready to be done. And when you or any one else is ready, is it really is about "whatever it takes (for you). Welcome and best of luck. Humbly on Day 40.