Originally Posted by
sclarke64448 
If he is getting sorted, will he even think about what I tried to do for him? Will he now hate me and blame me for everything? I want to contact him to say I'm happy for him but at the same time I don't want to break no contact. I now hope he will ring me, but is he even likely to?
What are you doing for yourself, hon? Can you get your hands on a copy of the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie? Have you found any Alanon meetings in your area. How about counseling with someone who's trained in addiction/alcoholism and the resulting issues?
I can not, absolutely
must not, base my reality on someone else. Validation from someone else is a
temporary fix at best.
Happiness is an inside job. Happiness does not depend on him validating that you played a significant role in his life. Expecting that only sets you up for more pain and disappointment.
I encourage you to reach out to the resources I have mentioned so that you can start healing and stop obsessing on what he is/isn't doing.
:ghug2 :ghug2
Edited bekuz eye kant spell
