I think sometimes it's hard for people to stop looking at the addict to solve their problems, fears, anxieties, or at least help alleviate some of it, just as much as it is for the addict to stop looking to the drug.
In many ways that is what draws them together. Sometimes non addicts think they are different than addicts, but many of the feelings are very much the same.
A lot of times when we are accusing someone of doing something often times we are doing the same things ourselves.
How many times do I stop when I am mad at someone, and say, well why am I mad at her, I'm doing the same thing?.... But it still pisses me off, (somewhere I still must be right?, lol) But once I let my ego go.... kind hard not to see.
Until one is ready to look inside themselves to find answers, it can be pretty hard to let go.
My feelings of codependecy of people and drugs were very much the same.
But once you learn to let go, really let go and find the strength inside of yourself, you find you are the only person you ever really need.
Or that's how it's been for me anyway.
Took me a long time to get there though.
****{Rose}}} good post! :ghug3