I am powerless over my husband's thoughts, feelings and behavior. When I focus too much on trying to help him through those and fix those for him it takes away from me caring for "my own" thoughts, feelings and actions. And as a result I lose myself and lose direction.
I have heard many times in the alanon meetings to allow that person the dignity to deal with his/her own issues and grow from the pains and struggles they experience. While I may mean well by placing myself in the middle to aid him, I am really depriving him of learning to deal on his own.
Its not easy to change my old patterns, but definitely what I need to be working on today!
Thanks for the Step One study