Originally Posted by
flipfloplover 
I was a hot mess.
Are you a hot mess without alcohol and drugs? Do you treat others with respect? Are you open, honest and forthright with your feelings? Are you accepting of others feelings?
If you answered no to being a hot mess and yes to the other questions, imho, you are not a dry drunk.
If you obtained a degree in counseling and work in addiction's then you are familiar with learning new behaviors to cope with life on life's terms. There are many places to learn these skills besides AA.
Congratulations on your sober time! People do get sober for medical reasons. The fact that you have chosen to remain sober means that you want to live the rest of your life without the "hot mess" of alcoholism.
Congratulations!