I totally feel for you. I left my ex a few months ago, and was at total peace with it. Then we started hanging out a gain a bit, and I still felt like it wasn’t right but started getting attached just the same. Then SHE disappeared and it left me in a tizzy! I totally felt lost, empty, mad, sad, betrayed, the whole 9 yards…even though I was the one that left her just a month or so before because I could deal with it anymore (being late, cancelling , etc..). I just have to keep reminding myself of the FACTS. I have said it before, but I’ll mention it again, the book “getting past your breakup” by Susan Elliott (and her website “gpyp”) have helped me tons. Not only to get over the breakup, but to look at my own patterns and issues that got me in it in the first place. Also to get a clearer picture of what I DO want. Hang in there. It gets better little by little.