When my husband wanted to go somewhere for the weekend he would ask if it was OK with me. Usually it was because I didn't really mind. But one weekend I wasn't feeling so well and told him I'd prefer if he stayed home and helped with the kids. He did stay home, but he pouted, sulked, and threw tantrums like a four year old the whole weekend.
I found that if I did need him to stay home or do something for me I would get the same treatment. I got the message (he trained me good didn't he) that if he didn't get his way or I needed something he didn't want to give me (usually the case 98% of the time) he would treat me to his little "moods" for the weekend or more. It was just easier to keep the peace if I told him it was OK with me if he goes. After some years of this though, I discovered I no longer wanted him around anyway. I will be honest and say that I do not miss him at all. Not one bit!
