Ah, shoot. That's too bad. I'll bet it was nice to be free from this drama-rama for a while...
Doesn't the restraining order prevent him from having contact with his son, outside of stated visitation? And if he violated that, wouldn't that send him back to jail?
And why doesn't EXAH's father know that he's out of jail? How do YOU know? You would think someone would tip him off so he can make appropriate decisions.
Can you talk to your son and lay all this out for him, so he's not blindsided by the manipulation? Do you two communicate well?
It may have been easier when he was in jail, but the reality is that he's not....it's a new landscape that has to be dealt with, with all the doors closed and locked against him. Wishing you peace and strength - and hoping that All of your fears turn out to be unfounded!!!!