I agree with Ann. It is more than time for you to take the focus off of him and put it solely on you and your baby. You do not deserve to be treated like this. A woman should be nurtured, loved, and spoiled, especially on her birthday. And as the mother of his child, he should REALLY be all about you and your baby, together WITH you. That is what "normal" looks like in the real world. If you can't get that loving, nurturing treatment from him, why not consider giving it to yourself BY yourself. I had to realize that it was okay for me to do this for myself, to set the tone in my own home to one I could live with and grow with into the person I wanted to be for myself AND for my children. Their dad (alcoholic) has continued to do what addicts do, but they have had ME to watch as an alternative role model to an addict, and I think it is serving them well. It was difficult for me to make that change for myself, but easy to do it for my children. Think about it.
