Hi Toomuch,
It took a couple of years to get my meds right and I still have good and bad days, that's just depression for you, there's no magic pill. I wish there was.
I have borderline personality disorder and had dialetical behavioral therapy [DBT] it really helped me learn to deal with the way my mind worked. In my group there were women with bi-polar too.
DBT is great, it teaches you about the mind and mastery over your thoughts and emotions that trouble you. I use the skills I learned every day.
Ask your doctor or a psychologist about DBT and give it a go if you are willing, from what I have read I feel you will get a lot out of it.
There is also a therapy called CBT but I've never had it, maybe someone who has can post advise about that?
Much love and understanding,
Faerie