Originally Posted by
kuljey 
geez why in the world is my brain working this way?
Self esteem, lack thereof, is often at the root of most of our own problems.
When we don't feel good about ourselves, we all have a tendency to make decisions based on emotions that often sustain our poor self image. It's a self perpetuating habit that afflicts all humans at some point in time.
Self esteem improves when we make set boundaries and make better decisions for
ourselves. Better boundaries and decisions may carry some amount of discomfort at first but over the long haul, it leads to self love.