Originally Posted by
kuljey 
geez why in the world is my brain working this way?
Have you ever been awaken by a really bad dream and you couldnt shake it or go back to sleep? maybe even had to go check on the kids to make sure everyone was okay. well its kinda like that or like being brainwashed - you mind has been thinking a certain way for a very long time and you have to change the way you think.
so what i do is when i start thinking the old ways - i do something, anything. post on SR, go for a walk, clean the bathroom, pick up a book, put a funny movie on tv, call a friend - anything to stop that train of thought. I try to engage in things that dont remind me of the problems or bring me in contact with people who will remind me.
see everytime he's done A you've done B and your brain is now trained to think that way
now that you realize the insanity, you have to retrain your brain to do C