Weasel -
I'm so happy that you decided to post in the Al-Anon forum. You'll find comfort and help here - everyone is wonderful. I've been reading tryinagain's posts on the newcomers board for a while & have been pulling for him. He obviously wants to get help and that is a great start.
I've learned that the only thing I can do to help my H is to help myself. It's like on the airlines when the flight attendent says to put your oxygen mask on and then help your children with their's. It's impossible to help someone else when you're gasping for air.
I'm glad you're here and send you (((hugs))).
imfedup - Welcome to you. You can help yourself by taking care of you. Do something special just for you today and see how good you feel. You're doing a great thing coming here - you'll find a lot of support from some wonderful people.
(Hugs) - L