notbychoice, after my break-up I found it important to learn the reason why I chose the wrong men or why I seemed attached and attracted to a man and a relationship that I KNEW was unhealthy. I've found a lot of peace by exploring myself and my choices and it has made it easier to move on.
I think we've all heard the "I don't like AA..." crap. It's so much easier to run from the truth than face it head on.