LaTeeDa that is one of my favorite quotes:
If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten.
Except with alcoholics it's tenfold because you will get what you've always gotten. Just a little worse. Every time.
mental, I'm sorry this is happening to you. You can only save yourself. From what I've read this man will never be your savior. Seems like outside of drinking (of course) he'd love nothing more than to tear you down for the rest of your lives. For the rest of your life, are you going to let him?