I am dealing with this myself right now as well. I am trying to set boundaries and be emotionally detached. I don't yell at him anymore and and I have no interest in is affectionate advances. He of course does not understand this. I cringe when he says I love you because I don't want to say it back. I want to yell I hate you and how much he has hurt me. I am so angry that it's the only emotion I can feel.