The kinds of issues dealt with on this forum pose an additional challenge, in that people tend to react strongly to posts that remind them of their own circumstances, or their past circumstances or attitudes in an earlier point of their journey.
Whether your being told to "get help" was meant in a kind way or a judgmental way, I cannot say. I can say, however, that had I known about this forum 2 weeks after breaking up with my xabf, I would've been doing myself a great disservice to have left because of a comment I felt was untoward.
If you feel that you are done with the forum, that is obviously your choice, and I am sure everyone wishes you well.