Wow, you all have given me so much to think about. I was seeking some groundtruthing and I am getting it. Thank you.
I wonder what the reactions would have been if I hadn't mentioned the drinking and driving incident specifically? Would it be, he sounds like a decent guy who is trying, give him another chance?
I know I said a version of this before, but he is such a sweet, decent guy 29 days out of 30, that it's so hard to remember during those 29 days that 1) day 30 keeps coming back and 2) it's a problem. It's like I just can't believe it's true/happens. I guess that's denial.
I know I deserve a lot of the words I'm getting here that feel harsh. It's funny, because when I read about what some other people have put up with, I think, that's crazy, I would never put up with that! Take out the drinking & driving and he's not THAT bad. But I guess that's minimizing.