So, we talked. Didn't get anywhere really, though he seems to think we did. I suggested NA meetings. He said he wouldn't feel comfortable going because he's not an addict. He said himself two weeks ago that he is. When I reminded him of that he said "well two weeks makes a big difference".....He doesn't care about any consequences.
He said he no longer knows if he wants my help. Then he told me that when he's with me he wants to be with me again, and fix everything and make it work. Then when we're not around each other he thinks about all the bad things and thinks it's better without being around each other at all, and so he can continue to use as much as he wants, whenever. Instead of quitting, he's "cutting back". And now he's started to drink more. yay....