hi, sorry you are having to go through all of this and i just wanted to add my esp. my 6 kids were affected a lot due to addiction and abuse while living with my ah but i was told that as i and their surroundings got better then they would too.
is not clear to me how old your kids are, especially your daughter, but with my kids, i found out that the only way they learned to cope with the abuse was to act out. i'm wondering if the change in your life would also make a difference in their lives. sounds kind of like you are leaning more toward letting your daughter stay. i think the decision is yours and i pray that your hp helps you to make the best one for all of you. keeping you in my prayers