Either way she will have change in her life. If she comes to my house it will be a HUGE change. If she stays she will see her brothers leave and her life become more structured and centered around her. I also fear she will be deeply hurt that I brought her brothers home and not her. That she will feel unwanted, unloved and deserted. None of which is true. If she comes here she will have all new doctors, therapists, teachers who do not know her history. She will realize her dad is not here and I know she will be hurt by that. Either way I have no idea which decision will cause the least amount of pain and be the best for her life.