Thanks all for the advice. They are addressed to him, so I'm not opening them. They are sitting on the counter where he will see them when he gets back from his AA meeting any minute.
I pretty much decided to ask what they are about and look at them. Not just take his word for it. Then just accept it. He has to fix it with my watchful eye.
He's been trying to bring our accounts up-to-date this week. I asked him to do that then we can start working together on the monthly budget, etc. I just told him I can't handle the process right now due to fear of an anxiety attack. If you haven't had one of these they are terrible. I think once I see the hard cold facts I'll be able to go forward.
My detachment and demand for more responsibility from him seems to be having an impact. Yesterday, he gave me a big speech about how me/kids are the most import
Got to go - he's home.