Kimmieh, you are right...
Sometimes we just need this confirmation that what we do is reasonable because we are so used to feeling guilty for every darn thing.
About 3 weeks ago I did tell my son that I should be able to have them around without life being in chaos. I said, because you have made poor decisions and have created this mess in your life should not mean that my life should be in a upheaval too.
I had to come to SR as I knew that if I was being a control freak, everyone would tell me. I felt like I was on the right track, but second guessed it. I am still a work in progress.
I really appreciate my SR family.