[QUOTE=cassandra2;2294891]even now when you look back you can see the red flags and alot of your pain stems from blaming yourself for not seeing the flags then. Maybe look at it this way, at least NOW you see the flags and its kind of like a rehearsal for the rest of your life. You will be able to spot people who mean you harm sooner before you get emotionally attached...[QUOTE]
Thanks so much for writing this. That is one thing I too am working on. It's hard though because even though I KNOW what I am looking at, even though I try to run like hell when I see those kind of people coming, something keeps drawing me back into relationships with them--EVEN when I KNOW I don't want a relationship with them! I think it has something to do with my own feelings of self-worth. IDK. It's hard, because even after I come to this point in my life where I see all the red flags, I have to have the strength to turn around and walk away.
