hi sandra-
i've had conversations like that one. if rereading that helps remind you why you split, then i would keep returning to it in your weaker moments. sometimes, when a bit of time elapses, we forget what it was actually like.
once, when me and my xABF had a fight, he threw three of my mangos out the window into the parking lot. when i woke in the morning, the mangos were sitting there smashed. that's the image i pull back into my head during my weak moments. it's just a reminder of the craziness to me.
naive