Sorry, Smacked, but if your trying to make comparisons to your situation they apparently are not parallel. Sorry if i take offense to your line:
If he had guilted me into it, and sorry to be so crass, but that would have literally made me then feel like a roommate with a warm place to stick it. It sounds like you guys have MUCH MUCH bigger issues to work on as her recovery SLOWLY progresses than nookie.
I am not trying to guilt anybody into anything, and if I was looking for a "warm place to stick it" I'm pretty sure I could find that. Intimacy between two people that love each other is an important part of a relationship. It creates a connection that adds to the love that is built on everything else that brought us together. I absolutely understand the advise others have given about being patient and letting her have her space and that is good advise. Your attitude that it is about "nookie" tells me that you don't understand me or my family's situation.