(((((Olinda)))))
Welcome to SR. You have found a great place with lots of Experience, Strength & Hope (ES&H) from folks who have been where you are now or who are where you are now.
Okay, going to put on my "Sober and Clean" hat for a bit, lol
Every alcoholic's bottom is different. I unfortunately, had to take it to death. I was given a second chance. And I have to tell you, that even after having the TOD put on my ER chart, coming back to life, going into a Recovery House for alcoholic women, I STILL had doubts after a few months (I was feeling better). It's called 'denial.' But, I wanted to live and I guess I knew I had no more chances left, so worked real hard to IGNORE that voice that kept telling me 'this time would be different.' (King Alcohol just didn't want to let go.)
"Acknowledging the problem" many times can be a MANIPULATION tactic to appease the person or persons in their lives that are giving them harassment (in their mind) about their drinking. Sort of 'smoothing the waters' to keep the 'status quo.'
Now that being said, and having worked with many alcoholics/addicts trying to find recovery, and dealing with it in my own family .......................................... the things that I had to BURN into the very soul of my being were:
The 3 C's:
I didn't CAUSE it.
I can't CONTROL it.
I can't CURE it.
That means I have to stop being Mrs. Fix It and allow the A in my life at the moment the freedom of choice. It is there choice. Some make it and some don't.
You are taking care of you by leaving the situation.
Please check around the site, read the 'stickys' at the top of the forum, lots of good info there.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing, as we do care so very much.
Love and hugs,