Sandrawg, thanks. Shellshocked is probably a good description!
Yep, they think differently. You know what's strange to me? It's the number of women whose alcoholic partners are described as fantastically great.......except when they're drinking. That puzzles me. I wonder if some A's are "just" addicted to alcohol -- as a primary problem -- and others are seriously troubled emotionally people who just collaterally abuse alcohol.
I know my ABF is almost as bad sober as he is drunk in terms of self-centeredness. When he gets sober, I realize why he drinks -- he cannot cope with life.
I am apart from all else, soooooo BORED of him and his volatile, cliff's edge, Me Me Me, narrow and friendless world.... UGGHGHGH.
I feel better, thanks for the place to vent and the kind reply......