Want2, my fingers are crossed for you that he doesn't relapse. That must have been really scary.
I wonder how many partners of A's wish the A would end up on a ventilator or some other such dire consequence, hoping it would drive the message home. I know I have. I used to hope he'd get a DUI and lose his license permanently (he lost it for 4 years about 14 years ago but eventually got it back, but one more and he loses lifetime driving privileges). For some f-d up reason, he seemed to always land on his feet, like a cat. He lost his job, and voila! Obama plan extended unemployment benefits from 6 months to now over a year....etc. etc. He catches a break allllll the time, it's really weird!
On the flip side, I used to tell ABF that I knew he COULD quit drinking because I knew if someone appeared and say, offered him five million dollars if he never drank again, he'd quit -- right there and forever. I truly believe that. But then that's really just saying that if responsibilities and hardships and many daily stresses of work, etc. were removed, he'd abstain because his inability to handle that is why he drinks.