Oh me too 5Fingaz, it was until I moved in with a guy I realized the reality of his problem.
I also met him "before" he drank as much. I felt like the first person that knew he had a problem and very very alone. I still feel like I am the only one who knows the ugly truth... the extent of how much he drinks.
Right now I am overhearing him (we work together) about this great bar with free drinks. With all the common friends cheering and planning stuff with him. I just want to slap them all and yell WAKE UP!!
That is why we got Alanon and these forums, its only the ones who have been around an alcoholic person who understand and make you feel less lonely....
Also, remember you can still love her - but from a safe distance, where your physical and mental health is not compromised.
Although its difficult, what she did was not personal, she did not this TO YOU. She is just that way and would have acted the same way with anyone else. It is not personal.
((hugs))