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Old 07-07-2009, 10:01 AM
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TakingCharge999
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Hi 5Fingaz!! :ghug3

Welcome to SR. This is a wonderful place.

I was in a similar situation.... I know how it's like to be deceived by an alcoholic, without alcohol they can be super sweet, tender, nice...


When dealing with alcoholics there are 3 Cs

You cannot control their alcoholism or how much/when they will drink

You did not cause her problem, she had it before she knew you

You cannot cure it. Only she can cure it and that when she reaches her "bottom". For many alcoholics there is no bottom, they never accept they have a problem, not even on their death bed. That is the sad reality of this disease.


You know she is a woman that for whatever reason, tends to physical violence and flirting with other people. She does not seem to care much about your well being. Is this what you are looking for in a partner?

This girl = the sweet girl you like + the flirting, violent, drinking girl

You cannot pick only the "good her". Its a combo. This is all what she is willing to be. Is the flirting with others, kicking, drinking part good enough for you? Is slapping you, kicking you acceptable for you?

Only 1 thing is sure with alcoholism: it will get worse.

Hugs!! I know its a tough spot to be in... and remember you are not "tied up" to anyone, you can always make different choices, and take care of yourself.
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