So, do something you wouldn't normally do! Once STBXAH left, I spent a glorious day in my PJs, reading (undisturbed in the living room), watching my favourite TV programmes (without the whining about how crap they are in the background), pottering around with crafty stuff (with no running critique) eating delicious and healthy food - with vegetables (STBXAH hated veggies) and generally doing exactly what I wanted to for the day.
'Kay, once that was over it was back to work and I got the self help books out again!
'Now what' is the exciting (and a little scary sometimes) part. 'Now what' is when you decide what you want to do with your life, how you want to live and how you get there. Remember baby steps though and you don't have to decide everything at once. I'm still working it out - and I keep changing my mind the more I learn about myself.
:ghug3