Welcome to SR. You've begun a double journey, one of recovery from alcoholism and the other recovery from an alcoholic relationship.
You will find strong support and encouragement here and elsewhere on SR. Be patient with it. There is so much to read and take in, it can feel overwhelming. Take it one day, one thread at a time.
I admire your courage to face the issues you have in your life and to start living with your heart and mind unrestrained.
I agree with what Ago has posted and agree that healing from the inside out is only way to go. Healing only the outside leaves only a scab over the wound and allows our issues to fester beneath it.
My best to you!
Alice