When I got sober I had a TON of "problems" and "issues"
Every single person I have ever seen get sober does too.
What was told to me, and I see told to other new people, and I have now seen it work with literally thousands of others is take care of your "insides" and your "outsides" will take care of themselves.
What that means is go to meetings, get a sponsor, and work the steps, and I swear this sounds strange and "weak" but it's true but your problems will resolve themselves.
I promise you this is true, I have seen it in literally thousands of cases.
What was pointed out to me is "Andrew, you have been trying to solve your own "problems" for years, and lets take a look at the 'evidence", your problems are worse then ever. Are you willing to try something different?"
Here is an experiment for you to try if you so desire. Go to an AA meeting and look around for someone who "has what you want" ie long term sobriety and "the look" of serene contentment, go up to them and ask them:
"Someone told me if I stopped trying to solve my own problems, just went to meetings, got a sponsor, and worked the steps, all my problems would "solve themselves", is this true?"
Good luck