When i first found out about my boyfriends addiction - i becamse obsessed with knowing everything about it. After about 2 weeks of not eating and have uncontrolable anxiety and reading everything i could possibly find on the internet about addiction and opiates and relationships with addicts, etc, i found this site.
The one thing that i heard/read over and over again was focus on yourself. Help yourself. It made me reflect on my behavior and i began to think that i was addicted to my boyfriends addiction. And it was doing nothing but driving me insane, and straining our relationship even more.
So i started focusing on my diet, my workouts, my finances, MY problems, not HIS. The people on this site have given me such fantastic advice, and reading other peoples stories have really put my own in perspective. Stick around, the support here is amazing.