I can really relate to many of the sentiments expressed in this thread. My AGF is in treatment. I have found myself wondering, "When is she going to stop blaming everyone else and understand the damage she caused?" and "When is she going to say she is sorry?"
I recognize that I need to work on myself and I have my own amends to make, but I can't help but feel like if you were to put the amount of damage caused by me and the amount of damage caused by her on a scale, it would tip to her side very heavily.
On an intellectual level, I understand that this is my own stinkin thinkin. And, based on my religion and spirituality, it is wrong. Matthew 7:3 states, "Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?"
But wow, the feelings are strong.