Maybe this is one of the reason why we need to remove ourselves from the insanity. Maybe this is why we need to focus on us, just us and our behavior…self policing can be a truly eye opening experience…which does by the way make it so much easier to make decisions that we need to for our sanity. And it has nothing to do with staying, or leaving as if leaving alone can solve this which is already so inside of us for other reasons. We aren’t really in this by happenstance, those of us watching follow an almost set pattern spiraling out of control, sometimes faster, sometimes slower, just as the addicts in our lives do…we all have to hit a bottom at some point, we can opt out of the madness whenever we wish….and if your bottom is out of frustration and anger, a reaction because you can’t control, that they just won’t do as, and that why can’t they…well then time will show this real brightly when you start over and repeat the same pattern in the next relationship.