I personally feel there is a difference between loving some one and enabling some one.
Thank God my wife and the rest of my family decided that if I was going to drink myself to death they were not going to put food in my mouth, a roof over my head, a set of wheels to get booze or any money to buy it. I saw my end when I saw that no one was going to help me in any way shape form or fashion until I got my act together.
My whole family knew that anything they gave me kept me from hitting a bottom, why should I have quit drinking if I still had a bed to sleep in, food to eat, and a family?
They let me know that they loved me and would be there for me when I stopped, they made me face the consequences of my actions alone! I had to make a choice, keep on drinking and lose it all, or stop and maybe save it all. They let me know flat out that there was to be no help from them until I started helping myself.
If they had not quit enabling me, I would either be dead, in jail, or an institution.