Tooblue, what if this is just who he is? What if this is the person he's become, unfortunately, and is the person he's going to be for the rest of his life?
Thinking deeply about what I wanted out of life, and about whether the person I was with HELPED with those plans or HURT those plans, was vital to regaining my happiness.
I do it still, and it still serves me.
Hugs,
GL