thank you everyone for your kind advice. I really appreciate the support. I do go to personal counseling. We used to go together, but he stopped. I am going to look for an Al Anon meeting as well. I never know what mood he might be in. Anything may set him off. He voices his complaint - I try to fix the issue, but the anger persists and a new issue arises. He sometimes tries to be nice...never apologizes for his behavior..but it is brief and if I don't respond immediately to the small gesture he becomes angry and cold again. Can anyone recommend any books on this subject? Again, thank you. It has been tough.