Cof,
One of the things I had to learn to do to recover, was to learn how to say 'No'. I had to come to the realization that I had been helping people in my life, in order to be liked. It was not easy to accept that, but I had to understand how important it was to be comfortable with myself and to have boundaries. It's not always easy, but to be able to say No and not feel guilty about it, is very freeing.