Tooblue,
Many have found it easier to live apart during recovery, I didn't have a choice, but sometimes I am really glad about that. He sounds so Poopie on the phone at times, good God I wouldn't want him hanging around. I wonder if this is an option for you?
Here is my personal fear. I never knew my husband when he wasn't drinking, so this might just be his real personality....yikes! For a long while, until the big progression started, he was nicer when he drank. Or zoned out enough to not notice what there was to get irritated at!