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can we honestly look at our chosen partner and say i accept you fully in this moment exactly as you are?
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Honestly ~ No. I think he would say yes to this - but I just can't right now. I've let go in many ways - with the trying to control/cure/change - and I can accept him as a person who is dealing with problems. But accept him - the way he is right now - as a my life partner?
I've written and erased several lines here....and come up with this - if I'm willing to accept him as a PERSON -but not necessarily as someone I would now choose to spend the rest of my life with....
Guess that doesn't say a lot about where I stand with it all - with him. At one time I would have said yes - completely. Things have changed so much. Yet I'm not fully ready to give it up. Considering this and what zencat said, I've got a lot to think about.
This is all helping me think through a lot of things ~ thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences.