K I met this man who has been in recovery for 3 years. Does that make him undatable? Isn't he trying to live a normal life as myself? Honestly if it were not for him I would of never started Al_anon again. I felt very comftorble with the fact that he was in recovery of drugs not alcohol. I have to admit that I was wrong in jumping into a relationship to fast with him. I was just getting over a very short lived relationship of 6 weeks which felt like 3 months. I noticed after a while that this man was drinking way to much but until I said something to him that he did not like and he answered me in a very derogotry way, did I finally see what an alcoholic he really was. Thanks so much for all your post but I need an answer on the beginning of this post.