Chiy...I know your situation is different than mine with my daughter, but she and I HAD to separate. We were so codependent on each other and there was no way she could get better while living here with me, and there was no way I could get better either. I know you live with your grams and that you love her very much and she loves you as well, but sometimes, it just gets to be too much. Right now, while you are recovering from surgery you don't really have much choice; however, once you are back on your feet, maybe you should give some serious thought to finding another place to live...even temporarily. Can you talk to your dad or another relative and just see if there is any possible way you could stay with them until you can get on your feet? Even if you have to work two jobs to save enough money to get a small place of your own, it would be worth it in the long run. ((((HUGS))))