Splendra, not a day of our journey is wasted, sometimes we have lessons we still need to learn. I love the "happy" lessons, but I struggle with the ones that are more difficult, and I find those to be the ones where I "attach" myself to the behaviour of others.
A gift of recovery is learning to find our own truth, and to be able to stand in it even if we stand alone.
My prayers go out for your family, how sad is the life they live. And more prayers for you, that you feel the love and strength as we all walk with you on this path of recovery.
Hugs