I am new to this ( giving my response)....Yes, I think so, if thats the term- QUACKING- and you spotted it. I like the sound of yr anger , its motivating you to take control.....
The last time I heard the clear voice on my voice mail, slating me for 'getting it wrong, I should have waited' etc he now had a big promotion, was back to training/cycling ,coke was all in past and he wanted to be committed to being with me /kids, would bring his things round and move in.............turned out his house had been repossessed!!!!!
Using yr optimism that things are in good shape to manipulate.
Brilliant you saw it for what it is